Words Without Speaking

Do you ever wonder how some people just always seem to get what they want no matter what the circumstances? 

Or how some people can just walk into a room and “own” it? 

Or how certain people seem to lays have some person they can go to for a favor or to get something done? 

I’m sure you’ve either seen or perhaps even personally know someone who exhibits these characteristics. 

And in most cases, they’re usually very successful in other aspects of their life including their relationships, finances and even discovering ad living their life purpose. 

That’s a pretty powerful position be in if you ask me. 

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, nothing in life will ever be more valuable to you in your quest to achieve success than your ability to influence other people. 

Nothing on earth including education, passion, experience or drive can supersede the ability to persuade because in order to fully leverage any one of those things, you will probably need the help of someone else at some point. 

And if you can’t get the compliance that you need, chances are that those other things won’t mean anything. 

The reality is that you could graduate from Harvard Law School with honors and know everything there is to know about law but if you can’t convince a jury, a judge or a decision making third party to see things your way, the outcome will go in favor of the person who has the higher level of persuasiveness. 

You could know everything there is to know about investing in real estate but if you can’t convince the person with the money to give it to you, you won’t be able to get started. 

Or perhaps you don’t need any money from someone else but you will need to get properties for the lowest price possible and that’s going to take the ability to be influential. 

Let’s put it this way, think of whatever it is that you want out of life and then every step that you will have to take to get what you want. 

If you look closely enough, you will see that at some point, you will need the help of someone else and to get that help, you’re going to have to equip yourself with certain capabilities. 

I’ve used the power of influence in many different ways to get exactly what I want from other people without manipulating them in any way. 

In fact, in most cases, they were happy to help. 

When it comes to influence however, many people associate it directly with being persuasive. And many people associate persuasiveness with the ability to talk someone into doing what you want them to do. 

And while that’s certainly part of the process, it’s only one aspect. 

You see, there are many different ways to effectively influence another person and one of the most important one of them is body language. 

As a matter of fact, in some cases, the body does more influencing than anything else . 

Think about how you would feel if someone was trying to persuade you to do something and you were having a conversation with them but every time you began to speak, they looked away. 

Wouldn’t that give you the impression that they are not interested in what you have to say? 

That in turn, would make you feel as though perhaps they are not valuing your opinion and would make you less compliant to them. 

And this example is just one of many that is clearly visible. 

There are countless other bodily movements that send messages to the subconscious minds of others that will either support or counteract what your are trying to achieve in your tactics of influence. 

For example, when a person sits with their arms crossed, it sends a message to subconscious mind of the person they are speaking to which indicates that they are defensive. 

Knowing this, you can prepare yourself to not cross your arms when speaking to someone that you are trying to influence but more importantly, you’ll notice when the other person does it so you’ll know they are guarding them self. 

With that knowledge, you can then proceed in a way that will help reduce the defensiveness and ultimately get what you want. 

These are just 2 examples of countless ways in which people communicate using body language. The key is to master the mechanisms by which they all work so you can capitalize off of them by knowing something that the other party does not.